What Do I Teach?
I teach a diverse range of topics within the sensual areas of Tantra and Kink.Please see the many options for private lessons and group workshops available,
and ask how I can custom tailor teaching to your personal interests:
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Learning is Fun + Sexy
I truly love teaching Tantra and Kink!Helping you feel comfortable and have permission to explore what you honestly desire in your heart and mind is one of the greatest services that I can provide to our community.
I will teach you how to bring sensual art to sexual acts.
As we are all unique, and what we feel and desire changes and evolves each day; I feel that it is important to start from where you are physically and emotionally today, and then chart a fun and compassionate course to where you envision yourself being in the future.
Considering the vast range of possibilities in the Tantra and Kink realms can be daunting and get one swept off of their core grounding. Please take a look at these options: [LINK], but do not feel overwhelmed or pressured to do anything other than what feels right to you here and now.
I welcome helping you to better understand all of the intricacies and interwoven layers of these many options, start with one specific interest area, and then learn how the sensual nature of that interest has many additional exciting possibilities that are fun, sexy, loving, and physically / mentally safe.
Know Yourself
Explore avidly, but do not get lost along the path.
Give yourself the time and space needed to be true to yourself.
Have an Open Mind
Your preferences may change over time.
Consider new options.
Be Aware of Risks
Take responsibility for your actions, ask questions,
Establish trust slowly, Move at a pace that is appropriate.
Knowing your personal risk profile can help comfort potential consequences from choices.
Challenge your boundaries, but do not fall over the edge.
Make Offerings / Receive Requests
It never hurts to ask politely
Consider saying "Yes", "Tell me more", or
"No thank you, but I would be interested in ___ instead…"
And most importantly:
Have Fun!
I will be there like Cyrano de Bergerac to answer all of your questions; steady your eye, mind, and hand; and help you fan inner sparks into a raging bonfire that will fuel your passion. My role is to maintain a professional space without any personal sexual contact between you and myself; so that you can physically and emotionally connect with your desires, levels of intensity, and your intimate partner.
Peeling back societal preconceptions, delusions, and shame can grant us access to all of the juicy parts of life that we deeply desire.
Feeling this level of acceptance tends to be pivotally life-changing.
I look forward to co-creating the world you desire!
Who Is Fredrick?
"Teaching the Art within Sexual Acts", my sexological work nourishes erotically marginalized communities, through mindfulness, ritual, consent, sexual attitudes reassessment, embodied erotic pathways, and dismantling the corrupt power differentials felt in our blood and bones. I teach private lessons, semi-public and private events, and workshops in Oregon, Washington, California, British Columbia, and via Zoom worldwide.A number of years ago, I had a little epiphany; I realized that I wanted to be with a ‘good’ sexual partner, and similarly that they would probably also want for me to know what I was doing with a symbiotic level of awesome. So, I started first upon a formal study of tantra, which quickly led me to rigorously study some of the kink modalities that held my then amateur interests, and further to learn many new things from some really great Teachers that I encountered along the path.
I am currently working rigorously toward my PhD in Clinical Sexology.
Being a sensual educator has allowed me many important opportunities to teach others how to engage and explore their passions in a way that is fun, loving, and safe both mentally and physically.
One of the greatest gifts that this work has repeatedly returned to me has been those moments when one or more people in a partnership have a curiosity, that they have wanted to explore, but had not yet felt the permission do so such. Then with some guidance, I can see the glow in them as their worlds open up and are full of possibilities for the expression of their love together! I love this, and it is the primary motivation that I have to teach more in the future. I hold much gratitude for all of the wonderful invitations from the kink and tantra communities over the years. Thank You!
As a Certified Sexuality Educator and Sexuality Educator Supervisor-in-Training; I serve as the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapist (AASECT) Section Leader for the State of Oregon.
I additionally serve the community as the Leader of the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSSS) BDSM/Kink special interest group, the SSSS Continuing Education Committee, and on the American Psychological Association (APA) Division 44 Society for the Psychology of Sexual Orientation and Gender Diversity's BDSM Task Force.
I have taught Sex Therapy as Adjunct Faculty at Lewis & Clark College’s graduate department of Counseling, Therapy, and School Psychology; and electives at the International Institute of Clinical Sexology.
When not teaching or doing sexuality research; I endeavor to focus life around what I love, which is the arts, getting outside for adventures with my pup, sharing quality time and food with friends, practicing Chadō (Japanese Tea Ritual), and movement such as yoga and dance.
Privacy
Understand that your communications with me are both private and personal. Do not share this information with anyone, without my directly expressed permission to you about the specific matter. By contacting me, you agree to and fully understand the meaning of these terms. I will be similarly respectful of you and your privacy."You are welcome to share the plot, but not the characters"; is my favorite way of explaining proper discretion in the sex positive community. Basically, if you are talking with me or others; speak from your personal point of view. Speak about and take ownership of your experiences, but do not share the names or identifying information about others. I ask you to do this both in private sessions, and in more public situations.